A letter to my 16 year old self

Dear Emma,
So you’ve just left school. Finally ready for a new start, to make new friends and begin new adventures. Finally rid of the childish school bullies.
I know you are sad that you won’t see much of Ste Shep anymore but don’t worry he will become an important part of your life and honestly, sometimes you will wonder how on earth you can get rid of him 😉
Enjoy college, you will meet some people that will become fantastic friends. They will help you through some difficult times. More on that later.
Ok a few more bits of advice on your college years. I know you get a little shy at times but you must stand up to the Theatre Teacher, he’s a prat, you probably should report him but make sure he knows before he drags you off that you were not in fact drinking alcohol on stage! Also that guy you like in IT? He’s a twin. STAY AWAY! You will only embarrass yourself!!!
Enjoy your years working at Woolworths. You will have some stories to tell (or not 😉 ) and meet some great people who will be important to you for a while.
I know you don’t know what you want to do with your life career wise but don’t worry you will fall into a career that you will love and enjoy for many years. I know this will surprise you but you actually go to university. I have a few pointers on this area of your life so pay attention.
You know deep down something is wrong so get help. I know you know your not learning like every one else, you struggling to see words and make sense of them and also to remember them. Please just listen to your gut instinct, the sooner you get help the better.
Also, this is where you will face your first (yeah sorry there is more!) biggest challenge yet in life. You know what those people are doing is wrong, they will hurt you emotionally so so much. You will cry and sob about going to work. Don’t leave it until it is too late, speak to someone you can trust. Things get out of hand quickly. It works out ok in the end but it isn’t a pleasant journey. You will however be a much stronger person and because of this you will be able to stand up for yourself more.
Moving on, let’s talk about one of Mum’s favourite sayings. Nothing stays the same. She is right, some things do happen for a reason and some things are hard to find the reason. You will loose some friends along the way in life. In different ways. It’s sad and tragic and all upsetting. You will find it hard but what you must know is some people will stay and thats ok. Some people are only in your life for a brief moment and some forever but the friendship you have with them at the time are amazing. It’s just the way it is. Please try and learn early not to worry about what other’s think or compare yourself to others.
As you write this you are 34 years old (I know it sounds like your old and that you probably have your shit together but trust me you don’t- but you have a great husband so it’s all fine lol) and you still haven’t really learnt not to compare yourself but trust me, in doing so you only make yourself feel sad.
Now then. I need to give you some advise. If you take nothing else from this then please remember this. Take the photo. The year after you get married (eeeeeeek exciting!), starts off amazing but something happens which will change your view on the whole world. Your husband is utterly incredible. It will change you. You will be stronger from it and you will help other’s from this as well. I know you will be scared and I know you will be lost and confused, but please, take the photo. Take all the photo’s you can. As I said I am now 34 years old and trust me when I say that 5 years on and it is still the biggest regret of your entire life and you will never ever get that moment again. Just take the photo.
Things get better and a gift from above is sent to you. It’s precious and amazing and hard work but it’s worth every moment.
I just want to say one more thing before I go. Towards the end of 2016, if you feel like something isn’t quite right. Don’t leave it too late, please get help. No-one will think your loosing the plot or going mad. If you feel something isn’t right. Ask for help. Just trust your instincts. Your instincts are usually right.
I don’t want to say any more as I don’t want to give too much away of what happens. I just wanted to give you a heads up on some things. I know it seems like there is a lot and that you have a lot to deal with but trust me when I say your a kick ass woman and wherever your life takes you, just know you always give it your all. Don’t worry about others and what they are doing.
Oh and save money when you have some. It kind of comes in handy when your older lol!!!
Take care, from the older and supposedly more wiser you lol!!!!
Emma xx
P.S. One more thing, that night out for someone’s 18th, tell your mate to take a bloody handbag. It just leads to trouble, confusion from the bouncers and a hole lot of hassle. Funny yet a little bit scary!!!!

By Admin

I am Mrs Shep aka Emma. Mum of boys. I suffer for FND and I also have dyslexia and dyspraxia. I chat about everything from baby loss and (sen) parenting to general life stuff. I even through in some meal ideas and recipes sometimes too!


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