Christmas Stress

Now let’s be honest, hands up……
Who’s struggling with the pressure of Christmas?
I mean there’s just so much focus on getting the perfect gift, having the right outfits, looking festive, the best decorations or even the best bloody elf on the shelf ideas. Probably the best wrapping but that sure as hell aint me I can tell you!!!
The thing is should it really matter? I mean as long as the children happy that’s all that matters surely.
So why do we stress ourselves out and compete to be the best Mum, Dad or whatever at Christmas?
I only had my Mum growing up until my Step Dad came on the scene when I was about 13 I think. As it was me and my Mum I can’t imagine Christmas was easy for her, but do you know what. I had the best memories of Christmas with my Mum and family. My Mum is one of 3, I remember we all used to pile to my Grandma and Grandad’s house on Christmas Day. Roughly 15 for Christmas Dinner and it was bloody amazing I can tell you. Aunties, Uncles, cousins, Great Aunties and Great Uncle’s. So many of us and just amazing, I am a proper family girl when it comes down to it. Family is everything to me. I loved the laughs and the games we used to play at my Grandparents house.
To me, that’s what matters most at Christmas. Spending time together. Family time.
It’s something I hope to bring to Alfie and William. Having William young, Ste and I couldn’t always afford to buy the best of things when he was younger. He never missed out don’t get me wrong but now he’s older he appriciate’s everything we do get him as he knows how hard we work to pay for anything. He also now prefers the tradions that we have, I mean obviously he loves to get gifts lol but he also knows we save up to be able to spend money on memories like Christmas markets or buying a new decoration each every year or any other traditions that we may start.
This year has been tough for us, I’ve been quite poorly for most of this year so we’ve kind of muddled through as regards Christmas and buying gifts.
I’ve not gone out shopping, it’s all been done online or someone else went to get it for me.
I know my kids and my family will be grateful for whatever they have. They’ve all said me walking is more of a gift than anything I could buy. I mean you couldn’t make that up, that’s just amazing of them.
So why do feel bad that I can’t make Christmas perfect and spoil the people in my life that have been so helpful to me this year?
All this bloody commercialism and watching everyone do amazing things and buy all these fantastic things just makes me feel like I am letting everyone down. I feel like such a burden to my family and friends this year and I couldn’t even get Christmas right.
You know what though, when I see the kids faces on Christmas Day, if all I get some slippers on Christmas Day (Fyi Steven I feel about slippers how you feel about socks lol! A must!) I’ll be the happiest Mum ever.
Let’s face it, all this build up is so stressful and yet so filled with great memories, but on the big day. There will be at least 1 gift I got right for someone and someone will be happy I got them that. The people that matter will know that if I managed to get a gift or write a card this year then they are truly loved as I have given all that I can this year.
I’ve done my best and that will have to do.

By Admin

I am Mrs Shep aka Emma. Mum of boys. I suffer for FND and I also have dyslexia and dyspraxia. I chat about everything from baby loss and (sen) parenting to general life stuff. I even through in some meal ideas and recipes sometimes too!

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