Making Friends 

It’s easy making friends as a child isn’t it? It was for me anyway, being an only child (essentially not technically, may explain another time). If I wanted to play with someone I had to make a friend, it helps that I am super chatty, some would say a little too chatty!
I just love that within 5 minutes of playing with someone as a child your each other’s best friend, like you have known each other forever.
I loved making friends as a child, nothing else mattered, colour, religion, back ground, none of it. You were friends and that was it, you didn’t see someone else’s flaws or the way they wore their clothes, it was just accepted, end of.
Then as you get older it gets harder, making friends as a teenager was damn scary. For me I started looking around and worrying what people may have thought about me, I was never the cool kind at school, I wasn’t geeky either, I was just me. Average, talked a lot, friendly and awful at sports unless it was running. Which is kind of ironic now considering I can’t even walk far now even with two crutches lol.
Over the years I have met friends in various different ways, each all unique and wonderful!
I’ve made a friend on a bus, through an ex boyfriend, from working in a shop, studying at college together, online Mum’s groups, meeting at a SANDs group and sharing baby loss and rainbow pregnancy together and also through going to Mummy and baby classes. We’ve just gravitated towards each other and stayed there, each friendship I have has its own unique story which is what makes our friendship special.
Although now I am 33, I do feel that making friends is harder. I mean the one thing is I don’t really go anywhere that means I meet new people, other than the nursery pick ups. Even then I don’t really see anyone as Alfie is usually one of the last to be picked up so I don’t see many Mum’s.
The main thing that I find hard at making new friends now is that I know more about myself as a person, and I know I that I talk far too much!! I don’t have a filter but I am working on that now lol. I think sometimes I just come across as too friendly and too eager and it puts people off. No one has told me this, it’s just my own personal thoughts. I’m always happy to meet new people and make new friends as I go through life, it’s just a shame that as we get older, it just seems to get harder to make friends. There just seems to be too much worry about what other people think of you and each other.
What do you think?
Do you find it easier to make friends now you are older and shall we assume more wiser ha ha?! Or like me are you a bit more self conscious and worry that your too open, friendly and talkative lol.
Much love
Emma xxxx

By Admin

I am Mrs Shep aka Emma. Mum of boys. I suffer for FND and I also have dyslexia and dyspraxia. I chat about everything from baby loss and (sen) parenting to general life stuff. I even through in some meal ideas and recipes sometimes too!


  1. Emma you are an amazing person and I have met you a couple times and never thought you talk to much but as we are alike in a lot of ways maybe I do as well. Now it’s worse as I forget stuff and interrupt people so to remember. I have made friends when D started school and then she moved we are still in contact and trying to make ones at new school.

    1. Yes I hope to make more friends when Alfie starts school.
      May be I will meet someone like me who talks a lot and shares the same interests.
      I don’t think you talk too much, however I totally understand the not about interrupting people. Downfall of Dyspraxia. Urgh lol x

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