To the woman who gave my friend and I that look this week……
How very rude of you!
Two toddlers in tow and a baby, my friend and I decided to have a long over due catch up at a child friendly place. The Sea Life Centre.
As you can imagine. It wasn’t an easy trip out! Bags everywhere, prams, baby carriers, reins, two worn out slightly stressed Mum’s and you have the audacity to give us that look…..!
Just because your child who was older than ours too may I point out, was doing exactly what they were told and being ‘the perfect child’, there was no need for you to look at us the way you did and look down on us. You might have you s*** together but for all you know, it could have taken a lot for us to get out that day. What if we had been the type to be bothered by your look? What if I was having a really bad day and had terrible anxiety and had been really stressed, nervous, worried etc about taking my toddler out. I would also like to point out that my child is not a naughty child. He isn’t even 2 yet!
I’ve had my days when Alfie was a lot younger where I was scared of taking him out because of other people. I was scared of people’s reactions and what they might say or what they would think of me when he screamed and got upset for food/his bottle. Or when he screamed because the bottle he just had was hurting his tummy because he has reflux and unknowingly a dairy intolerance. I sat and cried many a time in public with my friend by my side with her baby. I dreaded taking him out and having to feed him. I was scared that people might judge me.
Thankfully I am a lot stronger now and feeding with him is fine – unless he is hungry and then you know about it ha ha!
Thank god though that I am not that scared anxiety ridden Mother now though as that one look you gave my friend and I this week could have set me back. Just because my son got upset and annoyed because he couldn’t take the pet snail home / hold him forever.
He’s exploring the world and finding things out. He has a lot to learn and doesn’t always understand why he can’t do certain things. He gets excited and frustrated and tests boundaries. He’s an explorer and he’s amazing. He has his moments yes but what toddler doesn’t? That’s how they learn!
He doesn’t always know how to express himself either, but you know what. That’s ok because he’s learning and that’s my job to help him understand and learn in life.
So next time you think about judging someone else and their child / baby / toddler. Don’t! Instead, if you have your s*** together maybe offer that Mum some support. Tell her it will pass and that she is doing an amazing job. Sometimes we need reminding. Parenting is flipping hard work, so don’t make someone else’s day that bit harder by judging their situation when you clearly don’t have a clue!!!
Thank – You
From a sometimes stressed out, over anxious, always worrying Mummy xx